Thursday, May 20, 2010

"Standing Outside the Fire"

So, I'm cutting onions and jalapenos this morning. No one is home. I have a Garth Brooks box set playing (sorry Tim!) with videos, concert clips, and interviews. I've had it for years but never watched it until this morning. It made the time go so much faster.

They showed the video for "Standing Outside the Fire". I love the song, but had never seen the video. I am such a sucker for sap! I want you to watch the video and then come back to me... (Yes, I have put videos on the blog before, but I can't remember how to do it, but if you click on the song, it'll take you right to the video.)

OK, did you love it? Are you bawling your eyes out? I was really a mess with all the onions!

Everything in my life relates back to birth. But before I went there, I couldn't help but be in awe of this mother's support for her child. The love was so evident and he had so much confidence because of her love and support. It made me think of my own children -- do I support them in their talents and ambitions? Some yes, some, not-so-much. It was a good moment for me as a mom.

Next, I couldn't stop thinking of a woman who plans and prepares for an unmedicated birth. She doesn't want to take the "easy" way out. Nearly all women will "stumble" in labor -- even if it's not obvious, maybe it's thoughts in her own head. What happens from there depends so much on her support team. Do they run to her? Do they cheer her on? Do they tell her, "Get up! You can do it!" Do they tell the doctors to "back off! Let her finish the race!"

What if this young man's parents had just sat in the stand? What would that boy have done? Do you think he would have finished the race? I do not believe he would have. It was his dad's encouragement -- the one who thought he would fail or get hurt -- who was at his side telling him he could do it! The look in the boys eyes -- my dad believes in me! -- was priceless.

And then to finish the race, running into his mother's arms, so proud. The prize at the end of labor, to hold your baby, knowing you did it!

Moms and Dads, it is not just about what mom is able to do. It is so much about her support team (doulas, nurses, midwives, doctors, mothers, mother-in-laws, sisters), cheering her to the finish line. Who would have thought that a Garth Brooks song would lead to such as inspirational birth song and post this morning! Sorry for all the crying. I hope you'll ponder this video and it's meaning in so many areas of our lives. Gotta love Garth! Now get on with your day.

1 comment:

birthamiracle said...

I love it! Music can be so inspirational and I'm glad you pointed out the similarity between cheering on your child and supporting birthing women. What a great song!