Saturday, August 15, 2009

Just an Observation...

As a birth professional, I have noticed something interesting: the majority of women who have given birth, believe they are a "birth professional" simply because they have had a baby, even if it was with medication or a c-section. They "had to be induced" because... They "had to have a c-section" because... Most of the time, those reasons are totally bogus. But they think they really know about it because they have a child. It makes my profession much more difficult. The "student" is often not teachable. Just an observation...

Just because I drive a car doesn't mean that I understand how it works, how to fix it, or how to make it run better.

8 comments:

Brannon and Emily Brock said...

So true. Sometimes, I observe a sense of willful ignorance, simply because they want what seems to be the fastest and easiest, with the least work and least pain. Regardless of the side effects or dangers to the baby!!

Hannah Reasoner said...

Ha, and I consider myself a birth professional and have no kids yet. But, I really am. Very funny and a great observation.

Anonymous said...

What totally boggles my mind is the people who will *listen* to these people (the ones who have remained ignorant about pregnancy and birth, despite the fact that they have procreated) when they give advice, etc. What are people thinking?
Would you ask car maintenance advice of a "mechanic" who doesn't succeed much in fixing cars? Or follow a person's investment advice who has mainly lost money on investments? Or carreer advice from someone who has a hard time holding down a job for more than six months?
I do not understand why people don't consider the source more often. Have I said it BOGGLES MY MIND? I was taken aback recently when someone mentioned to me that a friend of hers offered to be her doula . . . (wait for it) . . . who has no doula *training,* no birth *education* (including self-study) and no *experience* (personal or otherwise) in natural childbirth. It was all I could do to keep a non-horrified face and explain that if it was her preference to choose that person, she was welcome to do so. It did not appear as though the pregnant woman found it a strange offer, but behind my straight face I'm thinking, "What is she doing offering something like that, and what are you doing considering it?"
Do you come across this, too? Please share! (It's Sarah C. by the way.)

Donna Ryan said...

Sarah, you crack me up! Loved your comments! Yes, I agree. Happens all the time. Think I'll add one more line to the post...

Anonymous said...

Love your extra line! It rocks! I am once again commenting annonomously. Today, I ran into what I know you just LOVE to deal with: an EMT who gets his panties in a bunch over stuff he truly does not understand re: birth. (I half want to challenge him to take a Bradley class to prove me wrong in all our disagreements!) What to do with someone who shows quotes from a textbook about there being a 19% rate of newborn resuscitation worldwide? What on earth is that supposed to convince me of? Is it *truly* saying that birth is so dangerous for infants or should we look a little closer? My response was that the number itself means nothing to me. I'd have to know more about the birth details of that 19%.

I'm totally stoked to take this guy head-on! But he'll have to do better than to show me quotes from the textbook he's assigned to read. (As I would not expect him to accept a quote from the Bradley workbook.) Show me the research! I'm willing to discuss!

Honestly, though. It has been my observation that a medical background (nurse, EMT, etc.) can be a crutch that hampers one from learning the real facts that surround birth. In my limited observation, it is the overconfidence these people have that is their downfall. How many rotten birth experiences are you willing to have before you decide maybe you don't know it all?

This is going off-topic, but is it a topic you'd like to address? That of people who "know" birth because they are nurses in the geriatric ward? (Or something to that effect.)

Lena said...

I agree with Sarah- sometimes I think it's the professionals who are worse when it comes to knowing it all. I think everyone it would be great if everyone realizes that there's always more to learn, the exception to the rule, and yes, maybe the patient DOES know more. I appreciate the Dr who admits he doesn't know what I'm talking about and is willing to go do some research on something. Donna- I always think of you when someone tells me they are going to be induced. I need a little "Donna" in my pocket!

Sheila said...

I totally agree with you! It took my 1st cesarean and a failed VBAC to FINALLY understand birth a little differently and to realize both my inductions and cesareans were NOT necessary. I never knew I had a choice to say NO. I know this NOW though, and I'm hoping its not too late! I have found some wonderful midwifes at a freestanding birth center and I'm hoping baby #3 will be born by VBA2C sometime in March 2010! I FINALLY have belief in my own body and found people to support and believe in my body as well!

Sarah C said...

It too drives me crazy the way women talk about birth and believe what they are told- but truthfully- it is incredibly tragic that the women in our country ARE NOT experts on childbirth. Every one of them should be. Women naturally want to talk to one another about this life experience that binds us all together and learn from one another. The tragedy in this place and time is that most are so far removed from normal birth that very few are experts.
It is natural to want to share our knowledge and experience, and sad that our universal experiences right now are so negative and ignorant.