Tuesday, March 3, 2009

What Would I Do?

I have been thinking about my last 2 posts about induction. I gave a lot of info, and I believe that everyone needs to make their own decision based on education and what is going on with her body.

I did not mention that seeing a chiropractor might really help get things aligned and ready for labor. Ideally, seeing a chiropractor is a good idea in the last trimester, but if you haven't done so, I would recommend it at this point.

But, it's still bothering me, I didn't really answer what I would do if I were in this situation. So, if it were me, and I had been doing the entire list of natural induction methods, and my induction date has arrived without a baby...

To be perfectly honest, if everything was fine with the baby, fluid levels, blood pressure, etc., and the only reason for induction is because my 10 days is up, I would seek out an out-of-hospital midwife (most likely a CPM or LM), and see if they would attend my birth, either at home or at a birthing center. They will give you a few more days of pregnancy, for sure! Most midwives like to be able to see their clients for at least a month, but a lot will still take you on. In fact, some midwives will discount the price since your prenatal care is finished. It doesn't hurt to ask. You will only give birth to this baby one time -- there are no second chances.

OK, but insurance is what keeps most women where they are, at the hospital. Depending on whether my cervix was softening, I would possibly need to make a choice between a prostaglandin gel or pitocin. If I chose to have a prostaglandin applied on or near the cervix, depending on the type used, I would ask for the smallest amount possible, and then use my own natural techniques with it, such as nipple stimulation or pressure points. Same thing, if I end up "choosing" pitocin, I would start out really mild, the smallest they would allow, and combine it with natural methods. I would really want my birth attendant to agree to stop the induction drugs if my body starts labor with the push.

I would not allow anyone to break my water. I would likely end up on pitocin if labor didn't start right away. I really don't like that time clock. They would be less likely to let go of the pitocin if my body started contractions because of the fear of the time. Labor does not like to be rushed. Adrenalin is the opposite hormone running through the body as oxytocin! It's hard to perform under pressure.

I have loads of stories that illustrate these different things I have talked about, but I am holding back! I will be addressing the dreaded "big baby" in the next post.


ModConMom said...

I don't have a specific comment on this blog entry, just a general comment.
I appreciate your blog and your position on natural child birth. Every woman makes her own choices and that is a good thing.

I guess it was just something in your blog title that stuck me. You say "giving birth is a transformative experience". I have friends on all ends of the spectrum of delivery choices. After much discussion and debate we have come to some mutual conclusions.
1. Having a child is a transformative experience for a woman.
2. There are two types of women out there. Those for whom the birth experience is significant in and of itself and those for whom giving birth is a means to an end (motherhood).
3. If you are in the former group, HOW you give birth is important (home, med-free, induction, epi, c-section)
4. If you are in the latter group, THAT you give birth is important. How is an asterik.

I'm sure you already know this but I felt the need to offer my two-cents.

Donna Ryan said...

Yes, ModConMom, I agree with you. Motherhood is definitely transformative, no matter how your baby arrives, even through adoption. I do find, however, that women see themselves differently when they prepare for and give birth without medication. I think you grow from that experience in ways that are impossible otherwise. I believe that it adds to the entire experience of having a baby. I have seen many women transformed by going up against their greatest fears and challenges -- physically, mentally, and emotionally. It affects her self-esteem and her confidence in parenting her baby. She learns that she can work with her baby to have a good outcome. It affects the way she bonds to her baby. I'll even go as far as to say that she will earn her husband's utmost respect and admiration. And he will earn her's, as they work together as a team to bring their baby into the world.

So, yes, I agree that motherhood in-and-of-itself is transformative, but I have to say, women who do not choose to experience natural childbirth are missing out on the most wonderful experience of a lifetime -- a truly transformative one, that will not come again.

Christina Pond said...

I agree with you Donna, not to gang up on ModCon! ;-)

The birthing process is such an important part of becoming a mother, not a slam on people who take the drugs, but I think there is a big difference, perhaps a deeply spiritual one, in how they viewed that moment in their lives....

Motherhood is for sure transforming for any woman, but going through NCB is transforming for you as a woman, not just with motherhood. It is empowering, emotional, deep and significant.

BTW I am kind of shocked about what you said about pitocin Donna!!! hehe you stinker!!! You know you would totally go 4 weeks "past due" hehe

Donna Ryan said...

I'm surprised someone is just now saying something about the pitocin comment. Figures, it's Christina! Remember all the things I mentioned BEFORE the pitocin. And, don't forget, I would seek out an out-of-hospital midwife before starting pitocin, as long as everything was good with me and the baby.

I simply don't want women to give up on the natural process. Sometimes women give in to the "American birth" with an epidural, etc. if it doesn't start out the way they want it to, such as with the pitocin. I've seen women just get a bit of "pit" to start things up and go on and have a good, epidural-free birth.

More than anything, lately, I've seen the positioning of the baby as being a problem for moms starting labor. Working with your doula, midwife, or chiropractor is a great idea. Often, once the baby is in a good position, labor will start, and end, with a baby.

I've determined that ModConMom was not making a comment in either direction, but simply stating the facts of how women view birth and motherhood. I think she's on our side though!

Christina Pond said...

Oh I was just giving you a hard time ;-) I guess after caster oil and all those other things a little bit of pit wouldn't be a bad thing, you know if you were like 16 days out and everyone was telling you that you were killing your baby! hehe